If you’re a recently
separated or divorced woman of a certain age, your newly single status, coupled
with the long winter and chilly early spring, may have turned your thoughts to
a summer holiday somewhere hot and far away from your domestic troubles.
For a growing number of British
women, this means jetting off to countries such as Turkey,
Egypt, the Gambia and Kenya. Not for the historical
culture and glorious scenery, but for the male “totty”.
According to a new book
called Romance on The Road, by
confessed former “sex tourist” Jeannette Belliveau, the problem of
middle-aged-to-elderly women having flings with young, fit, dark-skinned young
men is becoming endemic. It’s a problem, she claims, because such liaisons
invariably lead, at the very least, to disappointment and can even result in
death. “In the past two years, three Western women have been killed for their
money by their foreign ‘toy boys’,” she says.
The number of older women
who form long-term relationships with holiday gigolos is increasing every year.
Even though some culminate in marriage, statistically a third of all
cross-cultural weddings end in divorce.
According to Jeannette,
women who get lured into such sultry romances are “unbelievably naïve”. These
men, by and large, are interested only in the women’s money and the prospect of
gaining a UK
visa. Many are from impoverished families, eking out a living as waiters or
tour guides, and view Western women old enough to be their mothers as rich
pickings.
If you have just gone
through a traumatic divorce and your self-esteem has taken a battering, it could
be all too easy to fall for the “you are so beautiful” line delivered with
practised panache by a swarthy 20-something who gives every impression of
worshipping the ground you walk on.
I understand completely why
an educated, worldly-wise woman in her 40s or 50s might fall for such seductive
patter. She’s exhausted after a lengthy divorce process and fears no one will ever
find her attractive again. What better tonic than to have a harmless holiday
fling with a youthful Adonis?
Except that many such
flings are not harmless: you run the risk of contracting Aids or other sexually
transmitted diseases; you could be fleeced of your savings/divorce settlement
and have your heart broken in the process.
So, despite the obvious
attractions, I urge you to stick to sightseeing on holiday this summer.